Talk About It

I have got to get some things off my chest right now! I am um burning with rage right now it’s hard for me to even breathe. Well maybe not rage, but hurt and disappointed. I do realize that a lot of fear and anxiety comes from circumstances and situations that happen in our lives.  We can control some of the situations, and there are some that we can’t. But for me I must say that rejection has been a big deal for me. Ahm I don’t know why the spirit of rejection has been such a constant in my life. I cannot remember when I started to feel rejected.  I guess I might as well say that it started when I was in middle school. Yeah! It was during and after my encounter with cancer.

There’s A Disconnect

I’m sure that you at some point in your life have been rejected.  You probably feel as though your heart is being ripped out of your chest. I mean that’s the only way for me to describe it right now.  Sometimes when we are hurting, that’s just the way it feels. And I must say that um it’s just, heart wrenching and a difficult time.

Let’s just say that you are out in about.   You know when you’re minding your own business and you always feel (maybe not necessarily) the need to fit in.  And, you always feel as though you’re an outsider in a world of friends and even family that you have surrounded yourself with for many years. But now for some strange reason maybe a year ago, you started to feel the disconnect.

The thing is that some family and friends only wants or seems to be connecting with you when there are certain people around.  Then when they’re around others, they seem to just tolerate you. And, I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to be around anybody where I don’t feel welcome.  If I’m not wanted in their circle, that’s fine but say so. Be real with it! I’m not a fake or phony person at all. If there is someone that I may not care to be around I will still speak and be cordial.  I just wouldn’t hang out, chat on the phone or communicate via text with them.  The only time that we may conversate would be on special occasions.

I have 2 different ways to adjust to whatever comes.  You know every now and then there will be some situation or circumstance that’s going to make you feel rejected. But, what you must remember is that the spirit of rejection can only rob you of peace and happiness, if you allow it too. We have been adopted by God and he loves us. As you read the Word you will begin to understand just how much.

 

The Solution

I do know that I can read God’s word and that it will shelter me and hold me in my time of need. So, I know I said that I don’t have a solution to this problem, but I might say that reading god’s word is THE solution to all problems. As you begin to read his word and the word begins to marinate into your spirit and into your mind, a transformation begins and it’s almost like a flower that’s blossoming for the very first time.

You see this flower as it begins to grow and at first, it’s just a seed and soil, but once the flower begins to be watered, it grows and becomes stronger. Then once it has bloomed, it’s beautiful and it’s bright and it stands out among the grass and the weeds. And when I read god’s word and his reminders of how much he loves me I must say that it is soothing, and it does help me to let my light shine and that my good works are seen, and they glorify my heavenly Father.

Another way that I cope with rejection is through music. Praise and worship music to be exact. There’s always a song that will minister to your spirit. And you should have a song that you always keep in your heart. Whenever I find myself feeling lonely, my go to song is “Jesus and Me, by Luther Barnes.” And I’m reminded that even though this world has so many things and people that causes pain and unhappiness, this song reminds me that when it’s all said and done if I forgive myself and others, that I will one day see his face.The song says, that there will be no more pain, sorrow, crying and no more rejection. 

He Is the Way

So don’t you worry, God always shows up and shows out and we must learn to let him lead the way. Despite the ways we may feel because of what others do to us, we must remember that God is love. We must still show compassion and we must continue to encourage and inspire others. The spirit of rejection is very strong, however if you choose to have a relationship with God and if you choose to read his word daily, and praise and worship him, then you too will finally become free of the spirit of rejection and free of the hurt that it has caused you thus far. You will finally be set free. Now, Take a deep breath. Inhale and exhale. Until we meet again………………………I am…………….. The Compassion Chef.

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